Did *you* or are you moving to be close to your kids?
I know there must be many retirerees who debate the pros/cons of this, but the pros win out. Watching the grands growing up is an awesome experience and I wouldn't change it for a million bucks! However, there *is* a downside so you need to be able to say no and really mean it. Your own kids take for granted you're being near, and will have a tendency to ask 'what are you doing Sat. night/this weekend '? Loving your grands has nothing to do with you 'wanting' to care for them, so this needs to be made clear. I have to admit I did a few of those Sat. nights as well as a few weekends, so needed to 'have the talk' with my daughter. She understood 'not' watching them had nothing to do with my not 'being busy' that particular night/weekend, it's that I had already paid my dues in raising my own kids and it's MY time, to do what I want when I want, no explanation needed. Once you get that straightened out, it's all good!