Pack rat husband -- enable or resist?
My husband of 25 years, a wonderful guy in so many ways, is nevertheless a pack rat. We have bought bigger houses twice. The current house is about 3100 sq.ft. It is a quite nice house in a desirable neighborhood, but its current level of clutter produces extreme anxiety for me. We've found a house that is about 4500 sq. ft. of which 1000 sq. ft. is on a different level. He can have it and not mess up the other levels visibly. This new house is in one of the two most desirable parts of the city, and at a great price. Beautiful house and spectacular views in the back, sloping down to a bayou. But a lot of house and lot of land (about 1 acre). My husband is, I think, a little more self-aware of his habits and promises to be more reasonable about discarding things.
Moving to this house could buy me 10-15 years of peace with a wonderful man. On the other hand, it is quite possible that he will fill up this house too, though he is trying not to.
The new house price is in itself not a concern and is potentially a great investment because of the location and the price. But we can't put our current house on the market until we move and get this house ready for showing. It could sell reasonably quickly once on the market based on current market in the area, but there is always the possibility that we will be holding on to two houses and maintaining them for more than a couple of months if it doesn't sell relatively quickly. This possibility is a little unnerving. It won't wreck us, but it would be a waste.
Also, the new house will cost more in maintenance (yard work, house cleaning, utility bills, etc.). The extra cost of maintenance is within our means, but an avoidable cost that could be better invested if we don't move.
So, please weigh in on this issue, but please keep in mind this is a person I love and care about deeply. And a brilliant, successful and loving man. So, please be gentle while commenting on hoarding and hoarders. Thanks in advance.