(previously)sweet 1 yr old neice/major tantrums/HELP!
i care for my 12 month old neice full time (my kids are grown and gone)and love her to bits. she's bright and has been a cheerful, cooperative soul but has recently taken to having a major tantrum if i don't pick her up on demand. she plays on her own very well and i read to her and play with her quite often during the day. in the past, if she asked 'up' and i didn't comply, she used to fuss a bit, but was redirectable almost all of the time.now, she will scream at the top of her lungs and carry on for-EVER (over 30 min)until she is shaking and drenched in perspiration. at that point, she shakes and continues to cry uncontrollably even after being picked up.I won't list all of the strategies i've tried, but will say that i am firm in not giving in but have my limits. help, please.