It's hard being an adult child

cloudsgreyDecember 23, 2013

Hi, I am 34, I have been in and out of my parents house. I live in their garage, which is converted into a room. I live on social security money, no job, and have a severe case of Bi Polar 2. I have been in and out of hospitals. I am writing to say that my living situation is not a good one, I do not have a nice relationship with my mother. I do am co dependent. Everything that I am is everything that I don't want to be. I want to have a job. But I have been jobless for many years now that I have no experience, and I suffer panic attacks. I do not get enough money to live on my own. I haven't been lucky enough for any rooms to come up. I have now pretty much turned into an adult baby. When I was 18 I thrived, I moved out of the house and lived on my own for years. But my bi polar got worse and mania became an issue and I lost my job. If anybody has any advice for me it would be great. I did sign up for some classes to get my mom out of my hair. I am seriously afraid my life will be like this forever. I don't like putting my parents through this.

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Hi Cloudsgrey

I'm sorry you are going thru this. I have a family member that is bi-polar so I kind of understand your situation. Do you receive counseling? The worse thing you can do is shut yourself off from others.

I know that getting your meds stablized is so important. Keeping you in my thoughts.And hoping you can get the right kind of help.

    Bookmark   December 24, 2013 at 7:39PM
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thank's yes, I go to group counseling, am on meds, but the depression is really thick.

    Bookmark   January 3, 2014 at 7:28PM
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Hi cloudsgrey

What sort of job did you used to have ?

Have you thought of some sort of volunteer job, just to get your confidence up and just to get out of the house for a while ?

I work in a plant nursery where there are lots of volunteers, you can do as much or as little as you like and everyone is accepting and laughs and chats. We sit around and have morning tea as well. Perhaps something like that could be considered.

I am sorry that I don't have a complete understanding of your issues but chatting here at this forum could be a ray of sunshine for you.

Take care.

    Bookmark   January 12, 2014 at 2:12AM
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I have a nephew who is about 30 and in the same situation you're in. He's a bit worse off with his mental health issues though.
His mom got him into volunteering at animal shelters. You'd be amazed at how much an animal can lift your spirits with just a wag of the tail or (in the case of cats) a rub of the head on your leg. Volunteering can lead to a job if you're not too bad off like my nephew. A word of advice, talk as little as possible when you're feeling yourself losing control. The less you say, the more normal you'll seem. Men can get away with being the "strong silent type" and no one gives it a second thought. Do what you have to do to get along at home too because you're better off there.
He also does some therapeutic horseback riding. I don't know if you have access to anything like this but it might be worth looking into.

    Bookmark   January 28, 2014 at 10:25PM
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Have you been checked for nutritional deficiencies? I know a deficiency of B-12 can cause certain symptoms.

Links that might be useful:

    Bookmark   February 19, 2014 at 11:47AM
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