My hubby reluctant agreed to let me paint our oak kitchen cabinets. I can't convince him it is a good change if I don't do an excellent job. I have painted other woodwork: sanded, primed, oil paint, and still have some chipping from chair backs, doorway dings etc. What am I doing wrong? How can I protect white paint above the stove, over the sink, etc? Will I need to do extra prep work in this greasy or steamy area?