Dinner with In-laws tonight
I am dreading it only because I know that MIL is going to press us about her babysitting DS. We have not had them babysitte at all b/c of course we can't have them in the house without having to deal with MIL going through our things.
We could take DS up to their house but I finally had to be honest and realize why I don't feel comfortable with that either. I worry that MIL and FIl will take DS out in the car and drive around (he hates his carseat and driving is un-nerving) MIL is a bad driver and I don't think she can deal with a screaming baby and drive. She can't drive when it's just her. It's a problem.
Also, I asked hubby if he thinks that MIL will take and put DS in the Christmas card photo without telling, asking us. And he said he had thought about that already. I thought that was interesting. A few years ago she sent out a photo of us without telling us and she didn't send one to us either. She didn't want us to know. We found out thru a family member.
Then a few years ago I missed a wedding in the family b/c my uncle was dying. I had to go home for it. My MIL printed up cards with a picture of my husband, MIL, FIL, BIL & SIL and was going to send it out. I had my hubby call to make sure she wasn't doing something like that and big surprise she was. He was furious. I was hurt. But, she was doing it to be a witch. I found it very hateful.
So now I have this child and I am having anxiety over her taking him behind our back for photos, or that she is going to do something like that again.
Also, she sent an email that said she wanted to babysitte b/c she wanted him to herself for a while. It made me so uneasy. I know I am being protective. But, still there is just something about my MIL that I never trust.