This is kind of the opposite situation. I'm an adult child living with my parents. I would love to move out but I have some seriously debilitating health problems and can't.
This is an weird situation and I need advice and thought this would be a good place to post. I mean, yes you guys are strangers but hopefully since you guys garden, you can understand this situation better than other people.
Though I am ill and living with my parents, one of the very few joys I have in life is horticulture. We live on 2 1/2 acres surrounded by woods and I had this dream of planting a bunch of native plants to help wildlife. My parents were okay with it. After all, I paid for these plants. I don't have a lot of money since I can't work but it's one of the things that I do spend my limited money on. A lot of these plants were grown from seed or bought young and I've nursed them along.
My dad is going senile. I don't know if that has anything to do with the problem though. The problem is that he mows the lawn and when he does, he mows over my plants and he mows over animals. He doesn't look where he's going and he goes at top speed.
I've tried all kinds of methods to protect my plants but they fail. I've tried borders, cones, flags, etc. He mows right over them and has even broken the mower multiple times. He, himself, told me to use stakes to mark the plants and even though it's ugly, I do. But he mows right through the stakes!! He also takes them out.
I have volunteered to mow the lawn and my brother has also but my dad tries to beat us to it. For example, he'll mow the lawn in the rain when we're waiting for the next dry day to do it. And when we do mow the lawn, even though we do a good job, my dad will re-mow it the same day or like a day later! He never even reimburses me for the plants he destroys. But it's not money I'm concerned about.
Plants and animals are the only two things that make me happy. I've invested a lot of time, work, and money into these plants. It really bothers me when he just kills them. But if that's not bad enough, it really gets me when he mows over wildlife. There's no need for it. My brother and I don't kill anything when we mow.
I know this is HIS land but he's killing animals needlessly. The plants are one thing but the animals are more important. They shouldn't be dying just because he want to mow the lawn like a bat out of... heck.
I've spoken to my mom and sometimes she steps in, other times she doesn't. There's no consistency there.
I don't know what to do...
Should I just dig up all the precious plants I have left and sell them off before they'd destroyed one by one?
And what can I do, if anything, about the animals?
Back to the plants... Am I more sensitive about them than I should be? It really feels like he may as well be stomping on anything I plant and grinding them underfoot.