In-laws that don't get it!
We had to see MIL yesterday for Mother's day.
Once again the entire visited consisted of MIL holding DD and making much to do over my husband and his parenting skills. How great he is. I get zilch said in kind thrown in my direction.
I doubt this will ever change. It's hurtful and plain hateful.
She wanted to show off DD to a neighbor lady. It was past DD's nap and I kept saying this. I need to put her down. She was starting to fuss.
The neighbor lady was holding her and DD started looking around for me. So I stood by so she could see me but I didn't want to hover.
MIL comes and stand right between us. Me and DD. Blocking all view of me. I didn't say anything and of course my child melted down. When the neighbor went to hand her off MIL swoops in taking her from me.
We get back to the house and I am trying to get DH to 'get' that we need to go b/c DD is overly tired. An hour later we finally leave.
Also, everytime someone asks me how old DD is or asks a question, MIL over talks me and answers. It's really getting old.
We leave their house she is screaming bloody murder b/c now she is past a nap and is hungry and I can't even get her to eat b/c she can't figure out which she wants and doesn't want.
Last night I pay for it all over again with her waking up at 2 a.m. and is off schedule. So I will now have to deal with her getting back on for another few days.
When we were leaving MIL wanted to know if we would come for a weekend to their cabin. I've hit my limit. I am not going for a weekend with anyone. I am furious. I am sick of being treated like I am the nanny. I am sick of being the one that has to deal with the baby that is off scheduel and I don't get any help. Going to a cabin means I get to sit in a back room by myself every three hours to feed DD or to pump. I am not comfortable breastfeeding around anyone.
I am so upset. I cried most of last night. It hurts my feelings. DH knows it does. But, what can he do? I don't want to be around these people any longer. But, I know I have to b/c they are the 'grandparents' and they need to see DD.
I am OVER it and all of this. It's horrible.
Luckily I don't have to see them today for Mother's day. But, it would have been nice if just once they recognized that I too am a mother this year.