parental alienation or protection?
I'd appreciate some honest opinions.
Is it wrong to totally deny any contact with a NCP if he was physically and emotionally abusive (mostly to SC and mom) and possibly abusing drugs, while living with the child? There was also s*xual abuse of the mom. The mom and kids spent 3 1/2 months in DV shelter, but are now in safe, loving home. She remarried 2 years ago.
There has only been one face to face contact in nearly four years and the child never discusses the father.
The father tries to make phone contact, originally once a month, but now much less. He plays jeckel and hyde : friendly,chatty one time, then angry and pushy the next.
Supervised visits are almost unheard of where they live (her family court judge is very pro-father.He believes DV is a tool women use in court.)The ncp threatens going to court, but since he pays NO support, he probably won't. He already pays 50% of his meager income to his two other kids, when he works.
These kids and their mom would not be safe if the father ever found their house.(He threatened to kill the mom the day before she left, which is what pushed her to finally leave.)He wants public visitation, with mom supervising, until he proves he has changed. Then he wants unsupervised. Mom wants to stay very far away!
Is this mom doing too much to keep her kids safe?