Kids At Adult Parties? Long
I have a very troublesome situation. We have a large group of friends that my husband and I see occasionally. This is usually for neighborhood parties. We do not live in the neighborhood anymore, but are still close by.
Most of us do not have children-with the expection of one couple. They have 2 boys who are 3 and 8 years old. The 8 year old is an angel. I have watched him numerous times when he was younger. When his mother was having some medical issues, she called me spur of the moment to watch him while she was in the hospital. Her husband works out of town. I never turned her down. I loved spending time with him.
The issue is that now she has a 3 year old who is adorable, but a crazy little boy. He has bitten not only his brother, but a little girl at pre-school. All of the group of friends just love him, but I believe they secretly cringe when he turns into a banshee and screams at a gathering. Our parties are very casual-usually BBQ's or early beach parties. There has never been a time when the kids have not been there.
Recently, a member of the group was having a cocktail party. This mom asked if the kids were invited and in a roundabout way, they implied that it was an adult party. Let me add that the woman having the party is not a favorite of this mom.
The mom called me to tell me about the kids not being invited. I was not asked for my opinion-I did not give it.
There are so many details to this situation that I did not mention, but I do not want to write a book.
Anyway, she showed up at the party alone and we all had a wonderful time. The clincher-about an hour into the party, I noticed 3 other children in a small TV room. I did not even hear a peep out of the young kids. I was wondering how this was received by mom. I didn't ask.
Any opinions on how to tactfully handle this situation when I have a summer party. I now have firsthand experience on how angry and insulted she was by our conversation. I value her friendship and do not want to insult her. If the little one was more well-behaved-I wouldn't mind. The fact is, when it was just the older boy-this was a non-issue. Please help! I usually have no problem speaking my mind, but when it comes to religon, politics or people's kids-it could be a very heated issue.