help dealing with annoying friend of dd
My dd has a friend who is VERY annoying, not only to me and my dh but to my dd and sd. The girl calls constantly, if you do not answer she calls multiple times in a row. When she comes over she always tries to stay longer than planned and tries to invite herself to sleepover. I have told the girl not to call multiple times, that she needs to leave a message and dd will call her back when she can. I told her that when people do not answer it is usually because they are busy. When my dd tells her she can not sleepover she will come to me and ask me what we are doing that day or the next day that she can not sleepover! Lately my dd and her have been arguing when the girl comes over. She is so bossy and my dd has finally stopped giving in to the bosiness.
The problem is my dd no longer wants to play with this girl, but is too nice to tell her so she will still let her come over. I feel bad for the girl as well because her dad has never been a part of her life and her mother is in and out of rehab. The girls grandparents raise her, though her grandfather recently passed away and it is just her and her grandmother.
My dd and her no longer go to school together, as the girls grandma put her in a private school. The girl always says my dd is her only friend ( I can see why!!)
And we did try phasing the girl out. My dd made excuses why they could not hang out all the time for about a month and the girl kept calling and trying to make plans. She is actually at our house right now, playing for a few hours. Before she came over she was trying to get my dd to ask me if she could sleepover, but my dd told her that she was not asking and she could not sleepover. The girl has been being bossy all day and when my dd says she does not want to play something that she wants to play she was repeatedly asking my dd to play it. I finally looked at the girl and told her that if someone says no then it is rude to continue asking! I don't want to be mean to the girl, but she does not accept the answer no. I know it is probably the fault of the grandparents because they love her and tried to give her everyting to make up for her parents, but it is so hard not to dislike the girl!