I am not a parent but act like one (!). I can't wait to be a mother and have been around children all my life. My SIL has a nearly 2 year old daughter, whom I find I end up watching whenever we both come over for visits at my MIL's. She will leave the baby unattended for brief periods of time while she goes and does something else. i.e. She left the baby once in the (finished) basement to watch TV, where there is exercise equipment, etc. and when I came downstairs to check on her, I found the baby trying to STAND UP on the seat of the rowing machine! SIL also gets upset when child gets into things at MIL's (house with breakables, antiques, etc.) and says, "you should put things away when we come." Is MIL expected to do this?? Or should SIL watch her child?? I get so on edge when we are both at the house. I want to say something to MIL but usually say something to my husband and he yells at his sister (at least somebody is saying something). The funny thing is, usually SIL doesn't object to my husband telling her how to raise her child. Most recent episode was when said 2-year-old was weilding our new, expensive wedding photos and SIL did nothing about it. I said to husband, "Does she know how expensive those were?" and he yelled at his sister. Whew. Another disaster diverted.
Should I just say something to her? Or let husband do all the talking? I am concerned for the safety of this child in their own house (although I know I can do nothing about that) There are times when she asks her husband, "So and so, where is the baby?" To me, a mother should know where her infant is at all times. But then that's just me.
Please help, I don't think I could stand another visit.