'When Parents Hurt'
Well, about all I can say is that I'm glad I got the book from the library and didn't pay for it.
Coleman is STILL dumping the blame on the parents, no matter how he talks around it, if the kids are unhappy with the way they were raised.
Riggins, if you read this, the manner in which you and your husband seem to be planning to handle issues with his parents is BY FAR THE BEST WAY to address the problem. IOW, learn how to get along for everyone's sake.
For the rest of those children who won't learn to ways of coping, I would just say: "Get over yourself." Unless you were beaten on a regular basis or sexually abused or seriously emotionally abused, grow up. No one had a perfect childhood so you're not special in that category.
I've said my piece on this subject, so other posters don't need to try to goad me into arguing with them, because I'm not going to respond.