Need Some Input Here
I'm married to a man that has 9 yr old son from a previous relationship. They were never married and they never went through a court to establish custody rights. So the mother has sole custody currently. My husband has his son 50% of the time and had even had his son living with us for nearly a year about a year about a year & half ago. His sons mother recently told my husband she would be attending spring college classes at a university. So my husband thought that maybe they should get a shared parenting plan established since she would only be able to care for their son minimally. (she also has a full time job and the university is an hour away) She said "Absolutely No"!! She said thier son would become a ward of the court first until the shared parenting agreement was legal and she would not allow that. I think it has alot to do with child support issues though. (She has a spending problem and really relies on that income.) Is it true that the child becomes a ward of the court until the plan became legal? My husband doesn't have the money to hire a lawyer right now to even fight for legal rights to his son. But he"s so sick and tired of always walking on eggshells around the mother and always trying to please her so she won't take his son away. Not that she has ever threatend him or anything but she is very immature, controlling and vandictive so he never pushes the envelope. So I guess my question is... Is the ward of the court thing true? Is this a bad thing? Should he file for some custodial rights to his son when he has the money? Or should just be happy with having his son half the time anyway? He is concerned about future issues with is son's mother and feels he should be protected in some legal way. I don't know what to tell him. It seems asthough he may get screwed either way!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!