Question... Sort of off topic
I posted this at the Kitchen Table, but wanted to find out what you guys here think. This isn't exactly an organizing question, but it's definitely related because the whole thing is affecting my mood & my time, which are affecting my ability to clean & organize my house.
I started a new job several months ago. I report directly to one of the VP's. This was a big switch for me. I'm in the same field, but a completely different industry. I knew I had a lot to learn. The lady that had my job previously didn't train me much before she left. She pretty much showed me the very basics & left me alone. My boss is aware of this. I feel that I've done well at learning things despite my lack of training specific to this job. There are times that she asks why I haven't been doing a certain task. When I say that I haven't been shown how, she insists that I have. If I say, "No, I was never told that this was one of my duties or shown how to do it," she becomes angry.
I am a professional & work hard at my job. One day a couple of weeks after I started she stopped me in the hall & asked what I was working on. I told her & she informed me that I should have NO free time & that if I did I was to inform her immediately. I don't expect to sit around at my job & have free time. She did this in front of someone else, which embarrassed me.
About a month after I started I asked if I could take my lunch break at the end of the day & leave early because I had something that I needed to take care of. She told me that was okay, but told me I was not to make a habit of leaving early. This was despite the fact that she knew that I generally worked at least a half-hour past closing each day.
My boss has what I feel are impossible expectations, especially until I really know the business. She used to do this job before she became a VP. When she was doing it, there were about 10 employees & a fraction as many customers. Now that there are app. 50 employees & at least four times more customers. Obviously, the workload changes when there's that much growth. I believe that she's thinking about this from the perspective of when she was doing it & hasn't realized how much things have changed now that the company is larger.
I'm now working 10-12 hours every weekday. I eat at my desk & work through lunch most days. I don't mind working some overtime. I don't expect a job at this level to have no overtime. When DH saw a list of my job duties, he remarked that there was no way one person could do all of that. This comes from a person who is accustomed to having a lot of duties & to working overtime. My boss has mentioned several times that what I'm doing now isn't all my duties & that I'll be expected in the future to take over some of the duties she's doing. One day last week I worked nearly 13 hours straight. She doesn't always take a lunch break, but at this point she takes one more often than I do. She gets to work at least a half hour after I do, so many days I'm actually working more hours than she is.
There have been several occasions when I've had plans for the evening & she held me up even though she knew about the plans. On none of these occasions was I leaving early. Most times, I was actually leaving at least 1/2 hr. after everyone else. One night, my DH came to pick me up for dinner & had to wait more than an hour at my office. I was almost late for my own anniversary dinner because of having to finish something up. This despite the fact that I had mentioned that it was our anniversary & DH & I had reservations for dinner.
There is never any teamwork. I have specific duties to do & no one else can or will help with them. In previous jobs, the goal was to get the job done. I would pitch in to help others in my department & vice-versa.
I know that I need to approach my boss about this, but I'm not sure how. My previous bosses have been easygoing & I didn't have much trouble approaching them. I'm not sure how to talk to her about this. I know that she'll become angry & I dread this.
DH says I should just start leaving basically on time. He says at this point, I shouldn't even address this with her, just start leaving.