Socks and stuff
I got rid of the sock basket! No one else would care, that's why I'm announcing it here. I got into a bad habit of throwing all the socks into a basket when I do laundry. Makes no sense, just know that I'm generally bad at finishing the last details of what I start. So for a couple months, sock piled up this basket, it was full with 6 peoples' socks. Every morning I'd go through the sock basket for kids' socks. They couldn't get their own, it was too many socks to go through. Mostly they'd throw on whichever socks they found close enough to a match. It was a joke around here, but also a thorn in my side.
The other day, I sorted them all, paired and put away what was good to keep, threw away the rest. Even the basket (which obviously wasn't used for anything else) so I cannot be tempted to put them back into that basket. It was the only basket I had, only hampers. It's gone! I know it's small, but it was my thorn.
After the laundry thread, and getting big kids to do theirs, I was thinking about the chores I let go to me kids. I wish I could control everything, but one look around the house and it's clear I cannot. So I have to lower my standards and delegate to the kids and let them do their best. The dishwasher, for example. I didn't like to let go of that because they wouldn't put things where there go. The vacuum, because they missed so many spots.
But I finally thought about it, got reasonable. It's so important they learn to help and learn to do the chores well. They've improved over time, and it's good for them to know they make a difference. Besides, I cannot do it all, and their best is better than not having it done at all. Our whole family is much happier when they are involved, a part of the team. I'm happier because I feel less used, dh is happy because the kids are working hard, kids are happy because they made us happy!
What's your thorn?
What do you delegate to the kids, and how well do they do it?