Married 2 mos and already it is starting....
We are a middle aged couple, married two months. My husband can no longer live in his house because he has the hoarding disorder or whatever you call it. We are living in the house that I rent and things are starting to pile up in corners, etc. He has alrady taken over the den and garage with his giant piles of newspapers, etc. I knew about this condition when we were engaged, so its not a surprise and I do want him to feel at home here- but this needs to be addressed because I won't live like that. But how?
We had a chance to buy a really nice home in a great neighborhood 5 years ago, but he just can't clean up and sell his old house. Now the same home is on the market again and I would love to buy it, but once again, Dave's messheap will never be cleaned up. He says it weighs on his mind. He wanted to make an offer on the house, contingent on his selling the one he owns- but I feel sure that will just never happen. If he had cleaned up and sold his house five years ago, we would have already made almost $500,000 in equity on the new home.
Anybody have any ideas? Tough love? Set it on fire and collect the insurance? Oh - and don't suggest counseling... he's a psychologist.