Holding on - what not to do...
My mother's family and my mother in particular have issues with letting things go.
Just had a conversation with her about how she still sort of resents the fact her grandmother's house was torn down *in 1960* so a near bye business could expand.
She was a child at the time, but I gather her father was not happy about the tearing down after it was a done deal and communicated that to her.
I tried pointing out that it clearly seemed like the right thing to do at the time, if the family had needed/could use their mother's house, they would have held onto it. Once it was out of their hands, it was the new owner's to do with as they would.
This led to a whole explanation of how her father had had a "plan" for the house. :O
Anyway, I don't mean to go on, but I just can't believe my mother has spent this amount of time resenting the sale of the house! This stuff is parasitic and that's the only way I can think of to put it.