old house, polar opposite partner/owners?
Here's one for this forum! What if you & your partner find yourselves on opposite ends of the "old house charm & wonder" spectrum?
If, like my hubby & I, you bought an old house because you could afford it... And each realize 2 different things after a few years...
Spouse "A" (HIM): "No WONDER we could afford this! Everything's old & falling apart, the windows totally suck! The heating/cooling bills are as much as the mortgage payment! And (don't disregard the importance of this one, here!) "NOTHING IS SQUARE!!!". A door frame should never, ever, be an irregular quadrangle! This + that = ... What? Crazy!"
Spouse "B" (me!): "Oh, wow! I'm starting to appreciate how OLD this house is! This is in bad shape - oh, so is this! ..but I read online how to restore it... Hey! I think maybe these windows are original! (Yes, hon, I know they don't have those sash-cord thingies, but these peg dealies that poke into these holes to hold it up - does that mean they aren't original? Well, I don't know either, but can't we find out? What?! "I" care, that's who! Restored old windows are more effecient & last longer than vinyl! Online, that's where I read it. It's true, tho'! No, dear, I don't believe that if I forward a thousand emails to a zillion friends I'll get a wish granted tomorrow @ 4:00. (Tried already, didn't work. You still hate how old this house is... And now everyone I know is blocking my emails, anyway, because of it!). I don't believe EVERYTHING I read online! You're a registered land surveyor, you can't figure angles if they aren't "right"? It's a door frame, you're a guy, sorry you're struggling - I feel for ya - but you can do this!".
Really - we get along wonderfully & rarely argue. Respect for each other keeps our ears open & mouths shut when it matters. But to him, our next house will be much newer, to me it'll be older & MORE original. I can't stand the newer "tinkertoy construction" (even if they do have...what's the word... Little rooms within rooms with doors... Oh, CLOSETS!). Lol!
Sorry this is so long - but is everyone else on the same page as their partners on the "feel" of the old home? How do you compromise, when both feel strongly?