Dealing with a family of Hoarders...
how do you do it?
We purchased our home from DH parents- squalor is the word that comes to mind. Junk packed from floor to ceiling in every room, food that expired 7 years ago, animal urine and feces on the floor. Well when we closed they packed up necessities and thought they could just keep coming by whenever to get their other items (broken furniture, bags of trash, boxes of ?)We gave them an additional 48 hours to get everything- they still left stuff- we went through it and threw away the majority of the junk and called goodwill for the rest. It took us 4 months and 2 trash companies bailing on us before we could live without filth and junk. We ended up not speaking for 3 years due to this fiasco- his family said they weren't messy and they didn't leave junk behind.
Now we have been on speaking terms for about 6 months, they moved into a brand new home and it is already getting pretty nasty and the hoarding is in full effect. One parent blames it on the other and we offer to help them sell their items and put it towards new furniture- they refuse. They have 3 sofas, 2 tables- 10 chairs, and they save rocks (yes rocks)- the 2 car garage contains 1 broken vehicle, empty boxes, and rocks. HOA has ticketed them 3 times for parking vehicles in inappropriate areas.
I've tried to talk to them about the issue at hand and after they play the blame game, one will agree to get rid of stuff and the other refuses, then it reverses. In the end they decide not to get rid of anything.
Irony of it all, DH grandparents are hoarders and his parents complain about their conditions. The gp's conditions are even more severe- the house is packed and they have been renting 3 PODS for about a year now.
How do you deal with hoarding family members- we will not go to the grandparents house and if the parents home gets much worse we wont go there either. Any advice is greatly appreciated !