8th grader who can't seem to turn in homework - HELP
My 14 y.o. son is super smart - scores in 99th percentile in all areas on the standardized tests. BUT his class grades don't reflect it. When he went from elementary to middle school, his grades went from straight As, to As & Bs, to last year getting a final grade of C in Algbra.
He's in all advanced classes. As a 7th grader, he took all 9th grade classes. The principal assigned him to re-take Algebra and Science because he got Cs in both. This is the kid who is a math/science whiz. I went in and talked to her yesterday. She pulled up last year's grades on her computer and saw what I meant when I said it would be a waste of time for him to re-take those classes. EVERY test was 90% or above. What brought his grades down was all the 0s on homework.
This is homework that he sits at the table and does every day after school. Our rule is - you come straight in the house, sit down, and do your homework. No TV, no computer, NOTHING until homework is done & MOM approved.
The problem is actually getting the homework turned in. I TRIED EVERYTHING!!! He has tried at least 5 different combinations of folders, binders, Trapper Keepers, etc during the past 2 years. I bought him with a watch that had multiple alarms so he could set reminders to turn in the homework.
The BIGGEST problem is the teachers ALL have an attitude of "it's not my job to remind them to turn in their homework." NOT A SINGLE TEACHER will say "Class, turn in your homework" when the bell rights. Come on, how hard would that be?? I'm 44 years old and work on multiple projects at work. Some of them have a project manager assigned who reminds me of my tasks. For others, I am the PM and I send out reminder emails to team members.
I told the principal, if I can remind people in their 40s and 50s to do their tasks at work, would it be too much to ask for teachers to remind 13 and 14 year olds to turn in their homework?
Another big problem is that they are not allowed to carry their backpacks during the school day (thanks to Colomine and other school shootings) and they can only go to their lockers before school, at lunch, and after school. If you forget a book, folder, or paper that you need you get a 0 that day for homework.
I AM AT MY WITS END with this situation! I have threatened to drive him to school and escort him to each room so I can witness him turning in all homework before the first bell. Right now, I am at work before he leaves and he takes the bus. I am not kidding in saying that I could re-arrange my work hours in order to take him to school for "homework turnin" before the school day.
I should also mention- he has ADHD but we found out last winter that he has 2 leaking heart valves. He had an EKG during his annual physcial - he's 6'4.5" and our doctor did an EKG because super tall kids commonly have heart problems. There was a "blip" on the EKG so he had a heart scan, which showed the leakages. He had to immediately stop taking his ADHD medication because they are stimulants and stress the heart. So this slide in grades started then.
Can anyone help? What has worked for you with your kids?