Real help from my husband
My DH took it upon himself to re-organize the refrigerator. It started because he couldn't find the butter. I insisted it was in there someplace. So one morning, before I got up, he went thru it, threw out anything he couldn't identify, and stacked things in a "logical" order, to his thinking. It's a pleasure. We both can find things now. And there's another thing he's doing to help me. He was always saying I wish you would clean that shelf over the stove, do this, do the other thing, mop the floor,etc. I got tired of hearing it, so I told him it would really help if he'd prioritize his requests, so I could work on them in order.So he's making a list of what he wants done, in order. That way, I can do the chores at my own pace. And he knows he's "the boss", so to speak.