Need help re-learning
I have just come across this forum (usually hang out on the garden forums) and I have been impressed with some of the threads I have come across on here. I thought, maybe, this would be the right place to get some assistance.
I am 38, between my hubby and I, we have 5 children. My youngest son, 11, is the only one home full time. The oldest two are out living on their own, the middle two are in and out of the house all the time. I used to have the ability to plan meals (month in advance) make grocery lists, keep the house livably clean (even with so much traffic), maintain a veggie garden, help my mom (RIP) who was battling cancer (for 8 years), etc. I have really no good reason that I can identify as to what has happened to my lifestyle changes, but my house is a wreck, meals are on the fly, I can't get caught up, much less, keep up. I have more clutter than I have ever had to deal with. Our home is 80 years old, has no storage space to speak of. I used to find incredibly creative ways to create storage, but that has also gone to the wayside. I remember myself thinking that when my kids were grown and gone, it would be so much easier to keep my home clean. I am beginning to wonder if they were cleaning up after me.
I'm pretty sure that the problem with meal planning is having to relearn how to cook when you have no idea how many will be eating. Most nights, it's 3. My adult children really don't give me any idea when they will be eating at home. I have actually started the transition of cooking for three, and if they are there, telling them that there is a subway right down the road. They get a little miffed, and I have tried to explain that it is impossible for me to include them if I don't know they are going to be home for dinner and that by them not including me in their schedule, they have laid down the gauntlet of disrespect.
The housework, well, they are only home long enough to make the mess, not to clean it up. My life feels like a whirlwind, my laundry is taller than I am. I would really love some tips on getting things back in order. I have gone through the good habits thread, and will definitely work on incorporating some of those habits into my world. I would love some creative storage ideas (example: I visited a yard sale at a neighbors home, she recycles old glass lamp shades into hanging baskets and uses them to store items in. I am planning to make one for hair accessory storage in my bathroom. She also had some antique suitcases of different sizes that she uses right in her living room and stores winter clothing.
Thank you all in advance for your comments and suggestions.