What to do? Other family members obstacle to decluttering.
Okay, new question for you all...
First, thank you for all the feedback on my other question about sentimental items- you cannot imagine how much it has helped. The items I referenced in that thread are now donated and gone. Someone on that thread mentioned Peter Walsh's book "Lighten up." I looked into his books and ended up buying "It's All Too Much" which has turned out to be a fantastic read. It has given me a very clear path on how I want to declutter- recommend it for anyone who is getting stuck in the decluttering process.
One of the biggest issues I am running into now are my other family members, DH and DD. Neither is very good about purging stuff. DD is only 6 and I am working on her slowly, trying to help her understand that when we donate things we no longer use, they can go to help other people. She is very resistant to giving up anything, and I often fear I am raising a future hoarder. I get rid of her old toys and clothes discreetly after about a year of non-use.
DH OTOH should be beyond that point, obviously. While he will freely toss trash and broken items, anything he sees as "nice" he is resistant to let go. It doesn't matter if it's an item we never use and have zero interest in, if it is nice, he makes a case for keeping it. For example the most recent thing (but you could insert any example into here) was a boxed music set someone gave ME about 15 years ago. It is big, cumbersome, hard to store, and I never (nor has DH) listened to any CD in the set in full, and it's not even music I enjoy- yet when I told DH I was thinking about getting rid of it and that I could probably sell it for $25, he wanted to keep it because it was a nice looking set....????
I get tired of going around and around with him like it's some kind of high school debate just to get rid of one item that I KNOW we don't need to be keeping.
I won't even think about getting rid of things that are expressly his, and things that are "ours" I try to be considerate and ask his blessing before getting rid of, but it so challenging. Is it ever okay just to purge ordinary household items without telling your DH/SO? Example here: we have 5 corkscrews, I don't drink wine, DH drinks wine very rarely- we don't need 5! But they are all very nice! I think I could get rid of 2 of them and DH would never even notice. Is that so wrong? Do you think I need to run items like that by him before getting rid of them, or do I put myself through the it's-so-nice-we-should-keep-it debate ringer? Feedback please!