Overwhelmed by the Inlaws!
Well, as if our lives of balancing 3 kids, DH's "real" job, my selling on ebay and now our homebased businesses weren't enough, along with also homeschooling our oldest, my in-laws just added to the pile.
A week ago DH's step mom fell and broke her leg in 3 places. She is going in for surgery on the 18th, because it is such a bad break that it needs pins and a plate. She is in a wheelchair because she has osteoporosis and has broken her wrists so many times that she can't use crutches. The doctor says if she does, she will get stress fractures in her wrists. So I am doing all their cleaning, laundry and cooking. I could deal with this, but wait . . . there's more!
They have been very foolish with their finances over the years and now have major debts and hardly any equity in their home. So the same week as this happened they talked to DH's step brother and are moving down into a manufactured home he has on his property, which they can stay in rent free. So of course that means we need to help them move from this home (very full, over 2500 sq. feet). But wait . . . there's more!
They need all the equity they can get, so they asked DH and I to sell the home for them, rather than pay a realtor. We have sold two homes ourselves and have made the mistake of spouting off that it is so "simple". Arghh. So now, we are their realtors. But wait . . . there's more!
Since the home they are moving to is much smaller, they need to majorly downsize. A couple years ago I did an estate sale for an elderly woman in our church. My MIL never forgot that. This is an area I am good at, as I love antiques and have always been an estate sale junky. So she has asked me to do an estate sale with her stuff.
So, we have all there stuff to get moved 12 hours away and we need to sell all the other stuff and sell the house. We will be doing the move ourselves (DH will drive the big U-haul, as there is no money to hire professional movers. As it is, it looks like DH and I will be footing the bill for the U-haul.) This while playing nurse, maid and chef to them, maintaining our own home, homeschooling, selling on ebay and running businesses.
I wanted them to wait until she was healed before they move, but in Oregon there is a law that a home can't stay vacant for more than three monthes. Since DH's step brother and his family are moving out of the manufactured home into the one they just built in March, they must move by June at the latest.
And, to top it off, she is supposed to have "babysitters" 24 hours a day. She not so subtly hinted that I should do this, but I really can't do the homeschooling, ebay, etc. from there and I need to be home for the other two when they get home from school, as they are too young to stay alone. So I have played dumb and ignored this, but of course have major guilt. DH's dad is still working until they move and needs to be able to go to work. Once they move, he will be able to afford to retire. So no one is there for her. Besides the physical issue of doing it all, she has the personality that can drive me to drink. I am sure she is a long lost twin to Marie from "Everybody loves Raymond."! Manipulation by guilt is her specialty. So being with her for 40 + hours a week really can't work! I can't be all things to all people. I feel on the brink of snapping. Arghhhh!
Thanks for letting me vent! Not sure what anyone can say to fix this, but it felt good to whine! Anyone have any cheese to go with my whine?