Wisdom and advice for parting with sentimental items?
Hi. I am usually at the Pets Forum, but have been lurking here regularly since deciding I needed to do more serious decluttering- things beyond the obvious outgrown clothes, excess paperwork, and other things that will never get used again.
Anybody care to offer some philosophy on letting go of things that you know you don't need to be dragging around with you, but you have trouble letting them go?
This morning I put a couple of baby sweaters in a donation bag. They were sweaters that my mother knit for myself and my brother when we were babies. I loved to look at them when I was a child, but I never put them on my own child because by that point I didn't like them so much, so I can see no reason to keep them aside from an obligation that it is some kind of 'family heirloom.' Still, a part of me wants to run out to the car and get them out of the trunk.
The other type thing I am having a tremendous amount of trouble with is toys from my childhood. Toys of mine that were kept are generally not found (by my mother, and I believe intentionally so) until after my own daughter is too old to play with them. These are items that may or may not have been nice to share with my DD, but since they always come too late, it's a moot point. Plus, the new toys DD has/had seemed nicer and more appropriate for her to play with anyway so I don't feel like DD missed out on anything by not getting these vintage toys. I would have been happier to never see them again. Still, I have trouble parting with these old toys for some reason. Certainly there is someone out there who would like them and enjoy them more than I do. I had a miserable childhood, so I don't know if the toys represent something tangible and normal, or if I just have guilt because they have been kept for me all these years and why would I get rid of them when someone went to so much trouble to keep them.
FWIW, I'm not interested in selling them on ebay, it's more of something that I just want to be strong enough to donate somewhere and be done with it.
I am stuck on the more sentimental things- and not always understanding why I think they are sentimental. In some ways I feel like they are anchors, weighing me down to the past, but yet they are still so hard to let go. Any advice, philosophy, new way of looking at these things that anyone can offer to make it easier?