Lies and Realtionships
I just have never had any luck with having a "normal sexual relationship" I am not even sure I'd know one if I had one. People have all kinds of "hang ups": whether they have desires to "try" something the one doesn't approve of or looking at porn that causes a distortion in their expectations of what they expect in someone physically. Or the relationship is a struggle between one person wanting to have sex and the other person wanting someone to make love to them. It's all a hassle and I think a lot of times that is why when we share ourselves so intimately with another person we expect some degree of love and caring. Then you mix in the stuff they don't want to share with you like expectations and what they Really want and what they'd really rather have physically and...you have a lie.
Which like I said can maintain a few months-then the truths start spilling out.
Now that is why I think people have "open marriages." They know -it's going to happen-either mentally or physically or both-so may as well just save the lies and pain and do it with everyone knowing what's up. I've never had this type of relationship and don't plan to. The reason is I am just determined to not be so emotionally involved with someone that it matters. I plan to get and stay single and whatever will just be whatever not forever.