Listen to my heart or my head
..My husband has never been married and has lived with his mom his entire life never having to pay for anything and living rent free . I moved in with him while we were friends and as the bond between us grew deeper and intimant we choose to get married .The plan was for us to move out and start a life of our own . As I was searching for something in the garage , I discovered a bag that had some of my lingere in it . I freaked out and confronted him about it . Of course he came up with every excuse in the world .He swore not to betray my trust again and explained this was something he did during the years ha had spent being single . As much as it freaked me out i tried to be supportive and I overlooked the couple more times it happned . I decided to do some research and discovered this goes way back to when he was a child. He had admitted dressing in womans lingere since he was a little boy . They diagnoss this as transvestic festishism . He is not gay and does not wish to become a woman as most people first assume .Its very rare i can get him to open up about the topic. In the meantime the problems with his mom of course start to surface and while he has begun to start taking responsibility for becoming self sufficient his mom continues to smother him and treat him like a child always buying the food and making sure he is taking care of . (everything but sexually satisfy him)
I had decided to return to the Property Management industry mainly because of the benefit of recieving a rent free apt and since this was the career that enabled me to become independent after my first marriage ended . Unfotunately he was terminated from his job shotely after we moved out and he has not been very motivated about seeking employment . He has worked under the table for a friend part time but not consistant . Things have gotten worse and due to my frustration and nagging he moved out back to his moms . We had a heated fight which the police were called and now there is a temporary restraining order intiated by his mom . My problem is that i love this man very much and I am willing to be there for him during this time of turmoil that he is struggling with realizing the effects of the emotional attatchment his mom has . He is so confused and wants to act like he loves her and is appreciative for always being there for him but at the same time he struggles with the resentment he feels for enabling him to be irresponsible . Now she has put a wedge between us and because of all the fighting with me he has doubts about us . thanks for listening , and feel free to give me your opinions . Wow I didnt realize how long my story is . I hope I didnt side track anyone and make them late for anything !!