how different are u from ur spouse. and wht has it costed ur marriage.
we both seem to be the extreme side of the world and instead of getting attracted to each other, it is taking away all the joy and fun out of our lives.
i dont know where to start but to cut it short nothing seems to be going rightbetween us. we have been married for three yrs and i am a stay at home wife without any kids.my husband is a gud person but a bit too saintly for me i guess. i am bit more practical in life and wants to live life to its fullest unlike my husband.he dosnt like to socialise and i want ppl all around me. he wants to stay at home 24/7but i want to go out and enjoy and have friends to enjoy with us (maybe not always) but he never wants anyone around. he likes to THINK and joke whereas i want to joke with him the way i want to but he gets offened very quickly.i cant think and talk to him everytime. not even a single decision in our lives hav been taken by both of us. it is mostly done wht he thinks is the right.
yes i am frustrated and so is he.his expectations sre well tooo high. the only expectation i hav from him is to be active and healthy which he is not.he is over wieght and looks much older than his age (he is only 33 and i am 27)i have tried talking to him and told him simply he needs to do something....yet no change.
feels like life is slipping by and only i am the one to try and live up to his expectations.i am scared to think abt kids with him.he just seems to be living just coz he has to and thats how i am living but thats not wht i want from my life i am not sure wht he wants from his.
i dont know wht to do . a lot of the things i try to neglect like his gross habits coz i dont want to hurt his ego but then those r some basic stuff tht a person does for himself. y cant he?
he seems hav changed me in a lot of things but i am not happy abt the changes. but still to make the marriage work i follow wht he wants me to. but i seem to hav the least amt of influence on him and it hurts me a lot. in fact the menu plan is also done according to him (i just want him to be )
tell me how many husbands dont know where stuff are kept in the house.how many asks their wives to get up a nd get them stuff.
sorry for the long post. but i think i need to vent out.it is hard for mr to see the positive side of life it feels like i am living only to make him happy and still there is always some thing bad that i hav done to offend him. he works day and night not coz he has to just coz he likes to . even at home laptop is the only thing that is near to him. he get attracted to other women and fantasies abt them aqnd i try to keep a positve out look but it hurts .i look decent according to me . his relatives always say i am the best looking female in whole family. i have a gud figure and i think i do know how to carry my self.
tell me except talking to him wht shud i do. i hav tired talking but i am not the one he wants to listen