'Back door sex'
Ok...so it seems a nicer way of referring to "anal" sex. I've been reading the posts about "sexless marriage" and some days I'd trade places! Here's my issue.....I've never been that great at sex to begin with. (It's always painful for me upon entry into the vaginal cavity.) I thought this would get better with time/age, but hasn't. I'm thinking because all of my children were born C-section and I never had that vaginal delivery to 'stretch' me? Anyway...a little over a year ago, I had to have a full hysterectomy. (I didn't mind, and at my age there were going to be no more children!) I thought perhaps my attitude about sex would change now that there were going to be no more monthly periods and the discomfort that always accompanied them. I'm also not suffering from the "dryness" that everyone warns you about after the procedure. The problem really is that to me, sex just feels like someone trying to fit a very large cucumber into the neck of a very small bottle! I tried talking to my dr. about this once....I was only told that I might want to try different positions. Not much help.
My husband has ALWAYS been really turned on by having anal sex.....not my cup of tea, but somehow along the way I decided I could handle that better than I could him trying to go in the other way. Especially since the hysterectomy. (It's also not that my husband is too big...he is of normal/typical size.)
Now the problem is that I think this is the only way my husband gets turned on anymore! If we are making love, he is always trying to go in the back door, and it's to the point now that I just have trouble even getting in the mood for sex.
Any suggestions for making sex easier? Have any others had any similar type problem and how did you deal with it?