please, need a reality check, bad
I am pretty desperate to understand a bad turn of events, would like to know people's opinions of the following actual conversation (some poetic license has been employed to save space).
Him: "Go ahead, its your turn, pick anything you want."
Me: "Nah, that's OK."
Him: "Babe...come on."
Me: "I'm not sure I know what to pick."
Him: "come on what do you really really want? You can have anything."
Me: "Hey...Ok I found it, look Jack*, this is what I want!!!"
Him: "I didn't mean you could pick THAT one."
(I try to recover from being stunned. then:)
Me : "Jack it's good for these reasons...maybe you could try?"
Him: "No. No way. Not that."
Me: "But why don't you don't like it?"
Him: "Because I don't. Don't try to make me, or even try to understand why. I just don't. I do not like green eggs and ham. I will NOT eat them Sam I am."
Me (hurting): "OK Jack. What would you like then?"
Him: "I don't care. You pick."
Me: "But I just picked, and you said no."
Him: "Well, don't pick so stupid next time."
Me (hurting more): "Alright then. What are the rules for picking things?"
Him: "What kind of stupid question is that?"
Me: "I mean tell me what things you don't want, so I don't make another mistake".
Him: "It doesn't matter."
Me: "But I'm confused. You said I could have anything, but I can't have anything. So there must be some rules I can learn."
Him: "I SAID I don't CARE."
Me: "Look, how much do you want to spend? What kind of things should I keep in mind when I pick?"
Him: "NOW YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO MANIPULATE ME."
Him: "Who asks questions like that? You're being controlling. You're abnormal. Nobody else does this."
Me: "You're pissing me off now. I'm being totally reasonable. What are the rules please?"
Him: "I make up the rules as I go. What is OK to pick, is something you will find out after you pick it. Whether I approve or not shall be decided by me, at that time."
Me: " That's ridiculuous"
Him: "No it isn't. You're supposed to discuss things with me. Like a grownup, which you are clearly not one".
Me: "But you said it was my choice. Not a discussion but my choice. "
Him: "It is your choice. Totally. "
Me: "Except when it isn't."
Him: "There you go being delusional again".
*not his real name
What is really crushing is, this conversation was about our WEDDING DATE.