Husband Not Interested in Sex
I saw a previous post about this subject, but as important as it is, and due to the fact that it seemed to fall by the way side a few months ago, I wanted to bring it up again.
I am 34 years old, have been married for 7 years to a man 10 years my senior. He does have some ED issues, and refuses to seek treatment. I have told him many times that I don't believe I can live like this, but nothing changes. I have never been the most "sexual" person in the world. Once every couple of weeks would be fine with me, or once a week...but not every day by any means! Of course like most things, since sex has been eliminated from my life, it now seems to consume me. BTW, it has been about 1 1/2 years since we last had relations, and 2 times in the last 3 years.
We are now sleeping in separate beds (for about 1 year) becasue I was really depressed waking up every morning to find the he had tip-toed out of bed so as not to wake me and thus avoiding any of my advances. I lost 55lbs a few years ago, thinking my weight was the reason he wasn't attracted to me, but I have become so depressed that I have since gained it all (and then some!) back.
I guess what I am wondering is, am I fooling myself thinking things may change? Should I try to live my life as if I am living with a neighbor or a friend as our relationship is now? I wonder if I am being selfish, because we do have 3 small boys (yes, we did have a sex life at one time! About once or twice every two weeks for the first few years.) I try to tell myself that since my husband and I are very civil to each other, we kiss each other every morning and night and say "I love you" in front of the kids and stuff like that, I figure I should forget about my needs and try to give them a stable life. Maybe a little input from some others in my position would help point me in the right direction. Thanks a lot!