Life is crazy....!
I have posted on this forum before and on others as well. Life isn't perfect but things have improved a lot. I am about 8 months pregnant with a child neither of us was expecting. No pun intended. I posted about unbearable pain earlier. The good news is that I am no longer in much pain at all. After trying, what seemed like every option I was directed by an er doctor to check with my back surgeon. Duh, I should have thought about that before. I had to check with him when I found out I was pregnant, but never thought to make an appointment afterwards. After the appointment and the shot I was given near the base of my spine during, I feel like a different person. The best thing is that it seems much like it will be a one time thing with the shot. Things are going much better at home. I have been playing catch up with the house cleaning and trying to get ready for the baby. BTW, when this one is born I am getting fixed! I don't ever want to worry about this again. And I hate taking chances with all of the other options. Obviously they don't work all of the time.
Here is the question. I am definitely too old to be having kids again, I am 36 and will be 37 less than 2 weeks after the baby is born. This is my opinion,as far as more kids goes, considering my health and history of complications. I never felt like a beached whale with my other kids. I actually lost over 20 lbs. with this pregnancy, but I wasn't tiny to begin with, not huge just huge. It has leveled out, but I am still not gaining weight. From the size of my stomach, the baby is definitely not being affected by my weight. My husband thinks pregnant women are sexy. I think he is nuts, but like I said there wasn't a problem last time. We spent a lot of time working on some old issues after our last problem with the lack of sensitivity to my pain. I think we made good progress, but right now, he can't seem to understand why I am not interested. I can't seem to get in the mood. My husband works long hours when the weather is fit, and it has been. He is working 13-15 hours a day. I would think he is too tired to fool around, but I think he has the hormone imbalance. Jeez! Anyway, I am home all day with the kids, sometimes with my 3 month old granddaughter as well, and I just drag by the end of the day. I normally would try to muster the energy for some play time, but I find it hard to switch gears. He can go from working like crazy to cruising ebay to reading the news and watching tv- to ready in an instant. I am thinking part of my lack of drive may be hormones and part of it being treated like he is only interested in one part of me when he is home. Some women would think I am nuts, but I just don't feel sexy even when I go out of my way to get all dolled up. I just can't find any interest in being treated like I am just here for the sex. I guess it would be different if he was interested in anything about me or my body besides the parts he wants to play with. I can't wait to have the baby and get back to "normal", if there is such a thing. I am hoping his fixation with the pregnancy sex goes back to normal, too.
Any advice would be appreciated and I am sure interesting.