What makes the second time better?
Finedreams, on MrGreenLawn's thread, has gotten me thinking. (No mean feat).
So if you make an imperfect choice for first marriage, having waited till mid-thirties and presumably maturity to marry in the first place, what makes you able to be happy/successful the second time?
I always wanted my parents to divorce and try to get a chance at happiness. What I discovered is that my dad, who remarried, is about as happy as ever, which is pretty happy but not out-there joyous, and my mom is still unhappy, a condition which is not due to being unmarried. She was smart to stay single, he was smart to remarry.
I don't imagine a scenario wherein I do so much better the second time and achieve dramatic pleasure, nor do I see being single, like I was until age 34, as heaven on earth.
Does that mean I made a good choice of mates? If so, then is being thrilled to the teeth unecessary for a good marriage?