Marriage counseling works :-)
I wanted to share with the forum that my marriage is better: I'm happier, DH is happier, we can communicate effectively with each other now, and he has been keeping his temper under control. We are both more attuned to our own feelings and how our behavior affects the other person. This forum helped me with some personal stuff, and marriage counseling helped DH and I with the marriage stuff.
We went to marriage counseling for about 1 1/2 years, probably averaging every 2 to 3 weeks. Some of it was together, some separately. It's not over, but is definitely winding down. I'm amazed, and very happy, to be at this point. There were times when I didn't think it would happen.