How do I save a relationship
I am not sure where to begin. I have been married for six years. I had been in the military for 14 years when we got married. She wanted me to get out at that time. I wanted (and did) to stay in and retire. In addition, she is from a different country and had to move away from home. The first three years were rough. I spent a lot of time away (close to two full years away). During the third year, we had a child. The last three years, I had a decent job and did not spend much time away from home. I worked a nearly 9 - 5 job. One most of the few times I went anywhere, my wife and child when along. Things kept sliding down hill though.
This last winter I retired. We moved closer to my family, I went back to school, and she went back to work.
She is still angry that I stayed in the military even though things are much better for us. I know she endured a lot those first three years and did move to a new country for me. I appreciate that so very much.
For three years, things have gotten worse instead of better. I used to kiss her every day and any time I left to go anywhere. She rarely lets me kiss her anymore. I tell her that I love her and she replys with a "No you don't." She tells me that our relationship suck because I choose the military over her. She has also told me that there is no way to forgive something like that.
We did see a counselor for a while but things went back to the way they were as soon as we stopped going. She refuses to go back to a counselor because I have already made the choice of the military over her.
Since she is now working long hours, I try to take care of our kid and keep the house clean. With school and all, I am not setting the world on fire with the house cleaning and all. I do my best and keep the house from falling apart completely. The best way to describe it is we have clean clothes and dishes but would need to spend a day getting ready for any guests.
Now I am left wondering what to do. I do love her. I just am not sure if I can save our marrage.