My girlfriend loves me very much. She is an amazing person. She can put a smile on anyone's face and is fun to be around always. She was raped by her first boyfriend while she was drunk and he was who she lost her virginity too. That was over 4 years ago. Our relationship is fine, except for the fact that she doesnt enjoy going down on me OR using her tongue to kiss. This is a very odd thing for me, since i've never been with a girl who didnt "french Kiss" or like to go down on a guy before. She told me that the reason that she just likes sex and prefers to skip the foreplay is because she was forced to perform oral sex on the guy that raped her. Shouldn't she be able to get over that? Also, what is up with her not using her tongue to kiss me? That is really buggin me! I need help and want to know if i should directly ask her about this or assume she'll need more time and let it happen?