Are these signs he is cheating?

lovely2384May 1, 2009

I recently found out that my husband searched for escort services, when I asked him about it he said he didnt do anything..I also found emails from a girl that wanted to meet up with him and he even gave her information to what airport she should fly to and he also has several profiles on adult websites. when i asked him about all of this he denied ever doing anything with anyone, I do not know if I should believe him or not. All of this was done when i was away at my parents for two months while I had our baby. I recently also found out that he bought a sex toy for himself which he never told me about and when i ask him to show it to me he gets mad and says he threw it away. I waited to confront him about all of this because I wanted to be tactful and get somehting out of the conversation but all he said to me was that why was i looking through his stuff, which i happened to just find since he had mistakenly left his hotmail account open. He has always been very private with his email accounts and myspace he never lets me know the passwords it seems likehe is hiding something. What should I do should I trust him but inside i feel cheated in a way am I overreacting? PLease help I am soo confused

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tracystoke

Oh my god you are so not overreacting.how old are you?Its so obvious your husband has been messing about with women.All the evidence is there,he was having the time of his life whilst you were away having his child.He puts passwords on for a reason.IF he hadnt nothing to hide he would freely let you see what he was doing on the computer.what is your relationship like otherwise.Im guessing your very young.do not trust him any more he is a liar

    Bookmark   May 1, 2009 at 3:40AM
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silversword

Why were you at your parents for two months having your baby?

    Bookmark   May 1, 2009 at 1:40PM
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tracystoke

silversword ,that was just one of the reasons i thought she is very young,I may be wrong but I cant imagine a woman in her thirties or later just not knowing what was going on here unless very inexperienced.

    Bookmark   May 1, 2009 at 2:49PM
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catlettuce

Oh Dear,
Please go get yourself and your baby tested for STDS,a simple blood test for baby. You may need a complete ob/gyn check up. I most certainly would want one.

"I waited to confront him about all of this because I wanted to be tactful and get somehting out of the conversation but all he said to me was that why was i looking through his stuff, which i happened to just find since he had mistakenly left his hotmail account open. He has always been very private with his email accounts and myspace he never lets me know the passwords it seems likehe is hiding something."

He screwed up & left it open where you could see & now you are *blamed* for snooping. Classic way to divert from his unscrupulous behavior.

Be very careful, get you stuff in order. I don't think you are over-reacting one bit ut do think you should remain cautious and not tip your hand with your DH.

Also wondering why you chose to have your baby away at your parents instead of with your DH? Nothing wrong with that, in fact it's good as I suspect you probably got a lot more emotional support there..

Hugs,
~Cat

    Bookmark   May 2, 2009 at 9:29AM
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marge727

Unless you and your husband were living out on the prairie somewhere with no medical care available, I cannot imagine why you would go off for two months to have a baby. I wouldn't go off and leave my husband for two months for no good reason--what is the point of being married and having children.
He was playing around on the computer while you were gone--what a surprise. He could also have gotten dinner at a nearby bar in the evening just for some company.

    Bookmark   May 12, 2009 at 3:30PM
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