really need advice
I really need some advice - I have been married for 32 yrs. in a marriage that there has been little if any sex. After we got married (we were both virgins) I realized we hadn't had actual sex after seeing dr. I went for dnc and dr. said get counseling. husband wouldn't so I left him. He eventually did go but didn't really help. then I found out he had a pituary tumor which was reason he didn't want sex. he has been getting teresterone shots ever since. doesn't help. I have had sexual urges off and on but other things going on in my life, so sex was not a major issue. Then came menopause and my libido has gone sky high. also have been involved in emotional affair in job which set my libido even higher. For 2 yrs., I have tried to help husband and me. I got counseling, he didn't really want to - keeps saying for me to wait - it will happen. Counseling didn't help. I would leave him but I have no relatives or friends I could go to and I can't afford a place of my own. Also, I am losing faith in my religion and I do have a friend (my only fd. at this point - she is single) who is not of my religion and I am worried that I am will go astray in my religion. I know menopause can screw your mind up, but I really could use some advice.