How long does it take?
My question is a lengthly one! I got married to the most wonderful man in Dec 06. He is a widower (his wife expired 10/05)
He cant seem to let go of several things in the house that involved her. Just this month he has packed her cloths up that where in our bedroom. They are now in the back room of our house to be sent to her sisters house. I lived in the house for almost a year with her cloths in our bedroom and my cloths in the back bedroom. I thought this was strange but I told him that I would give him the time he needed. I packed alot of her stuff that was on the dresser in the bedroom a few months ago and told him that I did this. He was OK with it, until the other day he found the box that I packed. He asked me what that was and I told him. At the same time that I packed that box I took a child painting off the fridge that said I love you Grandma on it. He had a fit over this and told me to put it back on the fridge right now. I feel uncomfortable with these things. Its my house now! Grandma is no longer here.
Please dont think that I am some mean and careless person. There is a picture of her in the hall. I have told him that the picture could stay on the wall until the end of time. That she was part of his life and he should not be made to take it down. But we have a wall in the house that has all her kids on the wall along with her and her family pictures when she was a child.
If I try to change anything around in the house he freaks out. This is the way he believes it should be because is other wife did it that way! When is it going to be my house. I cant put things up that I want up and do things I want to do around the house?