Help for newbie going out of her mind...

ky_marliJuly 23, 2006

Hi everyone,

This is my first time on this forum...glad to have found it and even happier to see that I am not alone out there.

During the last year I have come to the realization that I am going through perimenopause. This was a tough one for me to discover [or accept] even though, looking back at the past five or so, I've also realized that this has been going on for quite some time now, even though I had no clue. I mean at 43 or 44 [back then], who thinks of these things?

The joint aches..well, I thought they were from arthritis [I am a Civil War reenactor and being out in all sorts of weather and sleeping on the ground could cause a certain degree of aches, I figured.]

Or too much time on the computer...carpal tunnel syndrom.

I used to be rather stress hardy, handled about anything just fine. That went out the window without a warning. Just being able to focus and concentrate was and is, still, sometimes a major chore and I break out in hives when it gets to be too much pressure.

Speaking of hives or rather itchy crawly skin...I get these symptoms now when I go to sleep [or trying to, I should say] at bedtime, right in the back of my neck. That's a new one on my evergrowing list of ailments. The recent heat wave doesn't seem to aid the situation much, either. Does heat intensify certain symptoms for any of you? Just wondering. I truly dreaded summer coming around this year.

Anyhow, sleeping has been a problem for me for the past 18 months or so. It just started overnight, it seems. I used to be able to sleep like a log, hit the pillows and I was out. Now I have trouble falling asleep or when I do the slightest noise wakes me up. My husband snores...I was in good shape when I managed to fall asleep before he did. That tactic doesn't work anymore. I had to move into a different bedroom for a while just to get some shut eye.

The night sweats are a pain as well, especially right before my periods start. I could slip and slide right out of bed on some night.

And speaking of periods...they never used to be as regular as for some women. I had typically 32-35 cycles which was fine with me. Now...for the past 18 months or so they've shortened to about 26 day cycles, lasting about a day longer than what I was used to. I barely got accustomed to that, now things are going haywire again. I had two periods with about 28-32 day cycles, then one with a 26 day cycle, and today I started spotting, two weeks after I started my last period. I'm realizing, once more, that everything I have learned over the years has just flown out the window, again.

I could cry, I probably will, the way things have been going....(I cry at the most ridiculous things as of late, at a drop of a hat . My kids have decided I'm out of my mind. I'm not far behind...)

Does any of this ring bells with anyone??? I sure would love to have some input on this. Help!!!


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Welcome to the forum. You will find people very supportive here. That being said, I can definitely relate to your symptoms. Don't know what's worse, the sleeplessness, mood swings or hot flashes. I know it's a fact of life, but it's been hard to accept. I started taking lecithin granules for the hot flashes. It's working, but I think it's making me constipated. I think if men had to go through perimenopause and menopause, there would have been a cure already!

    Bookmark   July 24, 2006 at 8:12AM
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Thanks, cheerful, I really appreciate your thoughts.
I think what has been most difficult to deal with is the fact how fast I was hit by all this, even though there have been symptoms around for years but I did not recognize them as such. Then came the awakening [when it felt like an alien had invaded by body and I really wasn't my good old self and I knew for sure that something bigger than me was at work here] and now I feel like I can't catch my breath. Everytime I turn around, something new is happening.
Thank God I do not have the hotflashes like some women do but I get the night sweats which I can live with at this point. The migraines are a different story. I usually get them every other month, just like my periods seem to be easier one month, with less symptoms, and real doozies the other month, with especially mean migraines.
My periods are the toughest part for me to deal with, the irregularity of them at times and now the spotting which is a new one for me. It is still going on this morning, with cramps and backaches. At this point, it is more like a very light period...something new for me.
Life, my body, really feels out of control at times, and too often. I just want my old self back.
Sorry for complaining like this but if I don't get this off my chest I'll turn into complete mush. Marli
P.S.: At this point, I am not taking any supplements other than the regular one a day vitamin and only because my eating habits are not always the best. I had considered adding soy milk to my regular diet but after reading some of the information out there I am not so sure now. Also, I would like to tough this out without any HRT, if possible.
I'm not very big on taking anything. Seems like what might help one thing may cause problems elsewhere. I am probably too black and white on this, though. I have a feeling I have a lot of reading and studying to do on all this.

    Bookmark   July 24, 2006 at 9:45AM
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I agree about feeling out of control sometimes. I'm trying to take things a day at a time.

    Bookmark   July 24, 2006 at 9:52AM
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I like a LITTLE help... just to keep from feeling that I am losing my mind... but not the full HRT's. I talked to the gyno nurse at my clinic, the OBGYN doc wasn't there. She also liked the idea of that menocream... being that there isn't anything available under the counter that you can adjust the dosage to fit how much you want to take. The under the counter HRT's are such a high dosage... they have cream, but it's at the anti-pregnancy dosage which is WAY high. I think if you can deal with it, then you are doing it the right way... it's just that it's more natural and well, if it wasn't supposed to happen this way, it would have been bred out of our bodies a millenia ago. But some people suffer so...and I can understand them taking the HRTs.

    Bookmark   July 24, 2006 at 3:40PM
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