My fiance is is in about her third year of peri-menopause. She has really tough periods with cramps that she cannot work for a day or two and very heavy flow. She went on HRT for about 6 months but it raised her blood pressure and she is not liking to taking pills anyway. I should say that I am 39 and she is 56. Also, I am a biochemist and I know the biological aspects, but CLEARLY, not the mental ones. So she has lost all interest in sex. She makes references to "this will be our romantic weekend" but nothing ever happens. I've been to a counselor and I realize that men connect to women through sex but I'm feeling like she doesnt even care about me anymore. There is no interest at all, sometimes I have to beg for a long kiss. I'm really confused.
I am planning to marry this woman and just was wondering if my sex life is over at 39. thanks for any input.