Heres my Story of my Marriage

nativeflower49March 31, 2011

I been married for seven years, but the past six years no sex, imtimacy, hugs, kisses in other words "nothing". I don't know why I stay in this marriage because I am not getting anything out of it, which I'm not in love with my husband but I care for him and love him for being the person he is. We only have two things in common, garage sales & playing match plays at the Casino. When we go places no holding hand like couple's do and since this has all grown onto me it doesn't bother me anymore. Of course I do have my urges to have sex but not desperate to go and cheat on my husband. He has two children one in college, the other in high school I call this one the rebellious teenager. I stop being a step-parent two years ago, I got thrown in my face when a problem occured that I'm not the parent so now I just leave it all up to my husband to deal with, I can do without the stress and drama from his son.

I am motherless, was not able to have kids of my own and I am the only sibling with no kids. The man I married is bi-polar and some of the side effects of his medication is sexual disfunction or the desire to be intimate and he has tried Viagar and other pills but didn't work. He has given me a nice home, a place of stablility. I do not know if I can live with a man who does not even try to get to get help about his problem and I feel like a re-born Virgin and most of the time I forget how it feel's to have a man touch and caress me. I know I am not the only women out there who has similar problem as I do but I sure like to relate my issues with them so let me hear from you and lets be friends.

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One life to live. Everyone has to decide what's important -- what's tolerable and what's a deal-breaker. Same for you as for me. Men and women have described situations similar to yours since writing was invented.

"He has given me a nice home, a place of stablility."

"...two things in common, garage sales & playing match plays at the Casino."

If that's enough, OK. If it isn't, well that's your call. Nobody from the outside can tell you what's important and what isn't in your own personal life.

I think it's safe for you to assume there will be plenty of men to choose from if you want out. But getting going with any of them will take time. Whether or not homes and stability will come with them is a different consideration. If you're not financially independent, the decision will be harder.

    Bookmark   April 3, 2011 at 1:12PM
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