How does an affair start?
I know I'm treading on dangerous ground. We're both married (23 years for me; 19 for him), both in our early 40's and both have had very stable marriages. We became friends when we served together on a local government committee. What started out as innocent enough flirting and teasing has progressed to more intimate remarks and suggestive innuendo. There's been no physical contact and to be honest I think we'd both refrain from that realizing the seriousness of two marriages/families being affected.
I've never been tempted to cheat on my husband and have always appreciated him and how much he loves me, but I find myself more and more thinking about this other man and wondering what it would be like. The attention is both flattering and exciting. For that reason, I seem powerless to tell him we need to stop. Plus, I keep telling myself that since there's been no physical contact (I don't count a greeting hug), it's probably ok.
I've always thought emotional affairs were just buzz words for people who wouldn't admit to a sexual affair, but now I think I may be having an emotional affair and I'm liking it too much to stop.