I'm working on becoming an assertive communicator: using "I" statements rather than "you" statements, and thinking before speaking rather than reacting. I think I'm doing a good job and I think my communication skills have improved.
However, DH still often reacts to the things I say as though I have said something offensive or hurtful to him. He says it's the TONE of my voice or HOW I say things. What am I supposed to do? I feel like he's not hearing my words. Furthermore, I think my tone is usually bland b/c I'm trying hard NOT to send the wrong message.