men are getting older too

shotzy52February 16, 2008

I am very upset, p.o., or just want to pull my hair out. My hubby is 60, his hormonal parts dont always work great either. Geez, even if try to play the Playboy bunny, it doesnt make him younger, I cant help him with that, it is all I can do to look in the mirror somedays. I am truly sorry he cant make himself feel younger, it isnt my job. Is it? Life marches on, I can only pray we make it to the place in our lives where we dont have to wring our hands over how many times we are intimate a month. JUst a few encouraging words girls.

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hunter_tx

So who is wringing their hands? You, him, or both of you? I kind of feel sympathetic for men when they get to this stage of life. I hate to sound crass, but at least women don't have to be "in the mood" to have sex. Men do. I'm sure it has a major negative effect on their sense of well-being when they just can't do it much anymore. Do you see what I'm getting at? It's probably just as difficult for them to accept this part of themselves as it is for us. At least that's the way I see it.
Mrs H

    Bookmark   February 18, 2008 at 1:30PM
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shotzy52

I suppose the difference between me and my hubby, is I dont blame him for my body not working anymore..... It is easier and saves faces for him to place the blame on me. I have never had a headache in 13 years! I may not lay myself out there with wine, nighties and chocolate, but then again never does he. But this to shall pass. :-)

    Bookmark   February 18, 2008 at 6:03PM
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hunter_tx

Oh, Okay. I think I see what you're getting at. You're not as interested since your hormone levels are down, and he's blaming that for his decrease in "function"? If that's the case, I would be irritated as well. Please tell me to mind my own business if you want, but do you guys have a non-sexual affection for each other? If not, it seems this would make is doubly difficult. I have found that with menopause, my whole attitude toward men is different. I'm interested in them mentally and emotionally, but not in a sexual way at all. I work with a couple of younger men and several younger women. I get amused as I watch their interaction with each other, and realize that when I was young, I was all involved in it too. Personally, I'm glad I'm not there anymore, lol. I kind of enjoy this part of life.
Mrs H

    Bookmark   February 18, 2008 at 9:04PM
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kris_mi

Has he talked to his doctor about it? Has he ever said anything to you about those ED commercials? Maybe that would help him. Is he blaming you? I'm sorry if that is the case. Mens sexuality is such an important part of their being. I'm sure it must be hard on them to change.

    Bookmark   February 27, 2008 at 2:08PM
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kris_mi

Oh my gosh! I'm sorry I didn't mean that pun in my post and there is no edit button!

    Bookmark   February 27, 2008 at 2:09PM
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hunter_tx

Is that what you call a Freudian slip? ;)

    Bookmark   February 27, 2008 at 6:19PM
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shotzy52

Oh his parts work. maybe not like 20 years ago, but they work. why do I have to be the playboy bunny with the cute clothes and he gets to drink beer and eat sausage and expect me to be turned on? I am hear to tell you that if I FOUND out he is using Viagra, my bunny suit is in the trash. Can you tell this is a sore spot with me? I know I should just zip it up LOL( oops caught that before I sent it) I am sorry I am venting, Just tell me poor Shotzy and I will give it up.

    Bookmark   February 27, 2008 at 6:58PM
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hunter_tx

LOL, Shotzy. Poor Shotzy ;). There. Is that better? You don't have the be the playboy bunny with the cute clothes, but that makes it your job to tell him so. Ya just gotta decide, then go with whatever it entails. You make me laugh, but I do understand why you are frustrated with this. Wish I could say something to make it all better.
Mrs H

    Bookmark   February 28, 2008 at 10:53AM
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kris_mi

LOL Mrs.H. I seem to often do that and I'll have my husband cracking up.

Poor Shotzy. How's that? Don't give it up though you make me smile!!

    Bookmark   February 28, 2008 at 1:02PM
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jannie

A woman can fake an orgasm (remember "When Harry Met Sally"_"I'll have what she's having." ? But men can't fake ejaculation. At least that's what my husbsand told me when he wasn't in the mood.

    Bookmark   March 14, 2008 at 7:54PM
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