He bought the house because 'I' make SS uncomfortable here.
It came out today. We had a huge fight on speakerphone while I was cooking dinner. DH asked me to help with household bills here I said fine-keep in mnd he makes 3 times what I make, no problem but SS should kick in a third too. Well DH though that was terrible and I was picking on him.
He brought up how he supported me including paying my bills while I was off work a yr & a half. I agreed and said he was also supporting SS & GS this whole time and never asked him to help with any bills. I also have paid for our health ins 6.5out of the 8 yr.s we have been together and still do.
It go really ugly with me having a complete meltdown & screaming into the phone. He brought up the new house and how much he was putting int othat etc. I told him to never throw that in my face again or I would sign it over and walk away. He wanted to do the house thing not me. Anyway, lots was said, including him bring up my son living here and not paying bills-he moved out when he was 20!
One thing in the whole ugly throw down that is sticking with me now is he said "I bouht this house to seperate you from each other because your b****ing is making him uncomfortable and he wants to get an apt." Ummm, ok how about how him & the kid moving in here made ME uncomfortable? How about ME, do I count? So effectively he got this house, not for a fresh start for us but to make it easier on his son so he doesn't have to listen to me *i*ch about cleaning up his crap every day.
Just where do my feelings fit in here? I told him your son/kids is not theproblem YOU are! I have never in my life lost it like this ever and an hour later I am still so angry I am shaking inside. I'm supposed to go on vacation with him now in a week? How can we do that if we are so broke? I am so furious. To me he bought that house for SS, not us, and certainly not me. I don't want a thing to do with it anymore.