Lately, last six months or so, IÂve become fascinated, in what I perceive is a purely voyeuristic way, with my wifeÂs sexual history. I am struggling with whether there is something unhealthy in this, and would appreciate your thoughts. If your long-term significant other somewhat gradually started asking you about your pre-monogamyÂindiscretionsÂwould that make you uncomfortable? I am younger, had much, much less "experience" before we met; and we were very well aware of that. (In the way of background, I started a thread here a while back "just putting this out there;" there is a lot about "us" in that thread. I honestly think I am past the orgasm thing. IÂm not too sure myself about the current "thingÂ" I just find it extremely arousing thinking about her wanting sex, just because it feels good and acting on that).