Feeling like I made the wrong choice
Currently in marriage counseling w/spouse of ~5 years. Counseling for various problems: spouse temper, my suppressed anger, disappointment, don't get along (none of the "big ones" but still an unhappy marriage). Have toddler. Wishing I had broken up w/spouse prior to getting married and dated "someone else" (SE)--who would have wanted to be in a relationship w/me. SE has always been in touch w/me tho I have, until recently, remained distant.
The more I talk to SE, the more I wish I had done things differently--I never even gave SE a chance tho everything was there. I realize SE is complicating the situation and I've decided to give that relationship a lot of space (and SE seems to be very understanding). How do I stop thinking about SE and focus on my marriage and resolving our problems, one way or the other?