I am so glad to find you! Actually, my husband lead me to this site. I feel like the Saraha Desert. However, I believe some of this comes from dehydration. So, I drink as much water, juice as I can. This helps w/the skin and other body parts. Not so much caffeine in one day. #2. Ignorance knows no gender. My Gyno (female)made the same stupid comments as some of yours. I am trying to use "natural" creams and suppliments to accomodate my husband sexually. Not too successful. He is very kind & patient, so it's back to giving him a good hand when needed. I have also resorted to pleasuring myself when I choose. No pain, piece of cake. Look forward to reading more ideas and solutions.